Boundary Bootcamp in

 Boundary Boot-camp

Boundaries, we all have them but often they are one of the core problems in relationships whether with friends,our self, family, co-workers or your beloved ( or maybe not so beloved). 

So what exactly are these essential "boundaries"?

•  Basically a personal awareness of what you will and won’t accept.
•  It’s the knowledge of what you are uncomfortable with
• They warn us when we are detracting from , or living outside of our values
•  They act as both self-protection and a warning system.
•  They are internal and external

Boundaries teach people how to treat you and what to expect from you.They also impose limits, not just on others but also upon yourself to ensure that you don’t place yourself in dangerous situations or continue to take being treated in a way that detracts from you.Boundaries can also hold us back from living more fully or following our passion when they are to rigid or imposed out of fear.

If you imagine that every single one of us on this planet has our own invisible electric fence – these are our boundaries. Over the next few weeks I will take you on a journey to uncover 

• Your personal boundaries
• How to set them
• How to strengthen them
• And how to work with  conflict

The first step is developing your own personal awareness of boundaries and to start you off try answering these basic questions, remember be as honest as you can and give examples if possible.

Self-Awareness Questions

Do you have a hard time standing up for yourself?

Do you take things personally?

Do you tolerate rude comment or pushy people because you find conflict hard to deal with?

Do you set yourself tasks/goals/deadlines and fall short of them?

 Over the next few days keep a diary and note down your awareness of boundaries in action with the questions  you answered above as a guide

In order to free yourself from the “disease to please” self-awareness is the first key so you can begin to be accountable for your own happiness. Answer the following, try and give at least five examples

·         People may not...

  

·         I have the right to... 

·         To protect my time and energy it is ok to… 

 Caroline Williams is a registered counsellor  and nationally registered homicide / major crimes counsellor in New Zealand working with individuals and couples to help them make the life they love happen. With over 15 years training and experience in anxiety,depression, addictions and trauma she is a prolific writer and workshop facilitator.

Contact her  carolinewilliamstherapynz@gmail.com for in person or skype counselling and make this year the one that counts!